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The Kallah is Queen: A guide to the bride's prayers and blessings and why she fasts on her wedding day
The Kallah is Queen
Fasting
For the kallah and the chatan, their wedding day is
considered their own "personal" Yom Kippur; a way of "cleaning
the slate", of "starting fresh" and of beginning a whole new
life together as a married couple. This
is one of the reasons why many couples fast on their wedding day.
In general, the couple usually fasts
from sunrise to sunset on the day of their wedding. As the chuppah is usually held after
sunset (she'keah), some couples fast until after the chuppah and break their
fast together in the Yichud room. Many times, the chuppah is held much later
than stated on the invitation and some
couples choose to break their fast just after she'keah on something light (such
as a glass of water, juice, etc) and then have a light meal in the yichud room
together. All I can say is that eating
something is better than having a bride faint either during the chuppah or even
in the yehud room.
In order to decide what is "best for you as a
couple"; think about how well you fast, the time schedule for the
wedding and how strongly you feel about this minhag.
The Kallah Chair
For the bride, the time spent before the Bedeken and
the chuppah, when the bride is seated on a specially decorated Kallah Chair,
her own throne, is a very special time.
This is a time when her friends and family surround her and entertain
her with music and dance. I have seen kallot surrounded by their friends as
they sing to her in a private section of the Hall; while other brides are the
center of attention – literally – seated in the middle of the Hall, with guests
surrounding her on all sides.
As these are all minhagim, the 'where', 'how'
and 'on what' you sit is a matter of personal custom, preference and
choice (and, of course, any physical limitations of the venue). Some Halls have a specially designed chair or
couch, usually covered in a white silk material. If you are planning to sit on a kallah chair,
then you should find out in advance whether the venue has a "special"
chair, see how it looks and whether you would like to further decorate this
chair.
Blessings and Prayers
The pre-chuppah time is also a very special time for the kallah and her blessings and prayers has special significance.
It is said that on the day of the wedding, the gates of Shamayim (Heaven) are open to the kallah's prayers and entreaties and to grant her requests.
Many brides will recite a special Bride's Prayer
as they sit enthroned in their Kallah Chair. There are many versions of this prayer;
you can find an English-language translation of one version at the end of this article. As this is only a tradition, the kallah can
recite any prayer she wishes and feels comfortable with.
The connection between women and the Tof
or drum or as it is called today tambourine (timbrel), is found in the Torah, Sh'mot
15, 20-21, "…Miriam the Prophetess, sister of Aharon, took a tambourine
and all the women followed her with tambourines and dancing and they sang
praises to Hashem…" This happened
after Hashem safely allowed the Jews to cross the Yom Suf (after Y'te'at
Mitzrayim); while the Egyptians, who chased after them, were drown as the seas
joined together again. Just as an added
point of interest, any mention of song in the Torah
is connected to praise of Hashem after a miracle or redemptive action.
There is also a custom for unmarried friends and
relatives of the kallah to ask her for a bracha for their own
happiness. Once again, she is free
to recite any formula she wishes. As
each person in turn greets the kallah as she sits on her Kallah Chair, she
can pray for and personally bless each person. In addition, many brides pray
for the sick and the injured and even carry a list of their names with them
down the aisle.
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Mineral Makeup vs Regular Makeup: For the wedding day and every day!
There
is a lot of talk about mineral makeup vs "regular" liquid
makeup. I want to discuss each makeup
type, talk about its benefits and disadvantages, who can wear it and who should
stay away from it.
First
of all when I use the term "makeup" – I am talking about the makeup
foundation that should be applied on your entire face, under your chin and sparingly
on the upper part of your neck. The purpose
of this makeup foundation is to create a clean, even-toned "canvass"
of your entire face. On top of this "canvass"
we will apply eye makeup, blush and lip color.
Good foundation ensures that your eye/cheek/lip makeup glides on more
smoothly, easily and adheres to your face more evenly and stays on much longer.
Let's
begin by tackling the terms:
Mineral
Makeup foundation
Mineral
makeup: Mineral makeup can be used as a powder makeup
foundation. The powder contains metals
such as zinc, mica and so on. Mineral
makeup is NOT a healthier alternative to liquid makeup. The word 'mineral" does not make it a "health
food". This powder makeup is found in a loose powder * version and
a pressed powder ** version.
Mineral makeup comes in many shades from very light to quite dark. When
applied, the face usually has a bit of healthy shine and has a bit of
softness to the touch.
Usually
pressed mineral powder cannot be mixed with water to create a paste that
can be used as a cover-up cream/concealer, as opposed to non-mineral pressed
face powders that can be used this way. You
can read more about this technique below.
*Loose
powder means just that: The powder is loose and soft, will fly everywhere
if the container is opened carelessly.
The loose powder container is usually somewhat deeper and larger than a
pressed powder compact. You usually
apply loose powder with a large bristled makeup brush or a powder buff.
**
Pressed powder means just that: The powder is pressed into
a compact. It will not fly everywhere
when the compact is open, but if you drop the compact – you will have
powder everywhere. This powder can be
applied with a makeup brush or a powder buff.
Mineral
shimmers: These shimmers are also mineral-based powders that are used as a blusher
or highlighter on specific areas of the face.
As its name suggests, the powder is shiny. You can apply this shimmer with a large
bristled makeup brush. Once all your
makeup (foundation, eyes, cheeks and lips) is applied, you can lightly and
sparingly apply this shimmer to areas that would normally shimmer in full
lighting.
This
shimmer is usually used as one of the final steps in the bride's makeup application to give
her an over-all, healthy glow; it is usually applied to the tops of the apples
of the cheeks, the chest area in a lower cut gown, a touch on the ridge of the
nose. Keep in mind: as the shimmer reflects
light in pictures, it must be used sparingly, otherwise the facial shots of the bride may
come out with white spots where too much shimmer reflected off the camera
flashes.
Non-Mineral
Powder Foundation
Non-Mineral
Powder Foundation: There are also non-mineral pressed powder
makeup foundations. These powders
usually have a drier ingredient such as talc or another alternative. As with mineral choices, this powder also
comes in loose and pressed powder versions. The same rules of caution apply to opening
powder containers. It is also available in several shades.
However
when non-mineral powder is applied to the skin, it tends to impart a dry
look and feel to the face. It can
used to take unwanted shine away from skin, but should be used very sparingly
with older, more wrinkled skin, as it dries the skin even more and tends to settle
into the wrinkles and makes them even more visible.
Non-mineral
powders CAN be mixed with a drop or two of water to create a paste that
can be used as a cover-up cream/concealer to conceal
unwanted dark areas under eyes, redness anywhere on the face or uneven skin
tone.
Liquid
foundation choices
I've
talked about these in the past. There
are completely liquid (cream) foundations and ones that come in a more solid
cream consistency. These foundations are
found in a variety of shades. They can be applied with your fingers, a makeup bush
or a sponge.
You
can use liquid foundation as a cover-up cream/concealer to conceal unwanted
dark areas under eyes, redness anywhere on the face or uneven skin tone. There are also specific concealer
products that you can buy.
Mineral
vs Non-Mineral Powder Options
Mineral
makeup imparts a soft glow to the skin, but is
for young ladies ONLY. Facial skin must
be PERFECT in order to use mineral powder makeup; skin without a whisper of a
wrinkle and without skin problems such as acne.
Mineral
makeup is perfect for young - under 23-25 year old - brides on their
wedding day. Having said this, I would not
use mineral powder makeup on a bride for a summer wedding. The mineral makeup will not hold up to the
heat and demands of an outside photo shoot, as well as the sweating, crying, kissing
and dancing involved in the eight to ten hours of the pre-wedding and wedding experience. Liquid cream foundation is a much more
reliable choice.
I
would not use non-mineral powder foundation options on ANYONE. These powders are drying and do not impart a
soft look to the skin.
Liquid
cream foundation is perfect for any skin. The amount used depends on the preferences of
the bride, her facial skin needs and the time of year of the event.
How
to apply makeup foundation:
·
Clean the skin
completely.
·
Apply a thin layer of
a very good facial cream to the skin and let it absorb into the skin for a few
seconds.
·
Next, apply a very
thin layer of foundation primer. I love
smashbox's (http://www.smashbox.com/products/6038/Face/Primer/index.tmpl)
primer. This product makes the skin feel
like silk!
· Now apply a concealer
to all the "problem" areas on the face: these can include pimples,
red areas usually around the nostrils, and the chin, dark areas under the eyes
and/or on the eye lids. This concealer
shade should be the same shade or a bit lighter than the natural skin tone. Cover
the area plus a bit more on every side. You can use a non-mineral powder and
water mixture, a liquid foundation or a concealer for this purpose. Gently pat (never rub) to apply this with
a sponge, makeup brush or your fingers.
·
Finally you can apply
the makeup foundation. I apply
foundation on the complete face, up to the hairline (blending to make sure
there is no demarcation line between the face and the hairline – this is NOT a
mask), on the eyelids and under the bottom lash line and under the chin and a
bit down the neck.
·
Now apply eye makeup,
blusher and lip treatment.
One
last note: as with all makeup, make sure you test the makeup products on your
skin before the wedding to ensure
that you have no allergic reaction to any of the makeup product choices.
Veils: They are not an "after-thought"!
All the following veil
suggestions are applicable whether you have your veil created specially for you or
you borrow a veil.
· Begin to pay attention to veils in wedding pictures – both
real-wedding photos and staged fashion shoots.
·
If you are having a veil made for you, discuss your
wishes with or ask the advice of your seamstress or gown designer when you
order your wedding gown.
· Like tiaras, veils must match/suit/complement the
wedding gown and the overall look. You
do not have to choose your veil and tiara at the same time, but you should
have both in mind as you choose your overall look.
·
Once the veil is ready, you must try it on –
in the salon - before you take it home. Too many brides bring the veil
home from the bridal salon without trying it on and then they find themselves
having to "make do" with this veil on the day of the wedding.
What to look for in a
veil:
o
The veil is made up of one or more layers of net or
lace. Make sure the net/lace is not torn,
bunched up or stained. Some veils have a finished (sewn) edge and some have an unfinished (cut and not sewn) edge. The difference is really a money issue - the more work put into the veil, the more it costs.
o
A comb or clip must be sewn (or otherwise attached)
into the top, middle of the inside of the veil - in order to attach it
to the bride's hair. Sometimes a line of
flowers, beads or pearls is sewn onto the outside section of the veil
where the comb is attached.
o
Make sure the comb or clip is sewn in correctly. This means that the comb/clip should be sewn facing
the hair, so it can be inserted into the hair and the lace or netting of the
veil lays on your head and face smoothly and without any wrinkles.
o
Make sure the veil is not too heavy on your head and
can be worn easily and comfortably.
o
Make sure the length of your veil suits your needs*.
* A veil can be made of several lengths of lace or netting,
usually the bottom layers (the ones closest to your skin) are the longest.
o
Make sure the length of the longest layer of
your veil is suited to your needs. If it
is too long and trails the floor, you may need someone to hold or carry it as
you walk towards the chuppah and away from it.
How to wear a veil:
·
You can wear your veil at the front part of the crown
of your head (Photo 1), at the back part of the crown of your head (Photo 2) or
in the back of your head (Photo 3). Any
of these positions are "correct"; it all depends on your hairstyle. Some hairstyles "allow" the veil to
be worn in any position, while some hairstyles allow for only one position.
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| Photo 1 |
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| Photo 2 |
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| Photo 3 |
·
What you must keep in mind is that if you wear a veil
at the back of your head (Photo 3), the top layers of the veil must be long
enough so that it can be draped over your head and face for the
bedeken and until the end of the chuppah.
· I have my own personal veil preference in connection
with the veil and the bedeken. I recommend a veil
with at least four layers of lace or net:
The bottom two layers will cover the back of her head, neck and shoulder area. I dislike the look of a veil just covering the face and leaving the back of the head – uncovered. This has nothing to do with a minhag, it is just my own personal preference.
Another solution to the bedeken "issue" is to have a separate lace or net veil (called a Bedek Teichel), with which the Chatan can cover the Kallah during the bedeken. This separate veil is placed on top of the head of the Kallah and attached with a pin. It can cover just the Kallah's face or can cover both the face and the head. Once the chuppah is over, this veil can be removed without disturbing the hairstyle or bridal veil.
My final words of advice: Don’t leave your choice of veil until the last minute. Choose your veil today!
Bridal Jewelry: The Ultimate Contest Between The Bling and The Dress
When
we think about bridal jewelry, we tend to think about soft delicate jewelry,
perhaps a strand of pearls or a delicate line of diamonds or crystals. What I want every Kallah to keep in mind is
that even if you always dreamed of wearing a simple pearl necklace and earrings
or just diamond studs or no jewelry at all; don't "lock"
yourself into a style just because "you always dreamed of it". Try on any and every kind of jewelry you can
lay your hands on!
It would be best to
try on jewelry options at the same time as you try on your gown. If you can’t wear your gown then at least wear a white (or off-white) shirt, this way you can see how the pieces look against your skin. Colorful clothing will have a different effect on the jewelry and how it is reflected on your skin. You should also keep a picture of your gown close at hand as you try on jewelry
choices.
Your
gown, its cut, style and appearance should have the greatest influence on your
choice of jewelry, hairstyle and makeup.
Everything should work well together and nothing should over shine the
OVERALL effect of the complete package.
YOU should shine in the complete look!
Having
said this, sometimes you may want the gown to "take the lead" – a
simple, informal, country gown usually calls for simple, nearly-there jewelry
and simple tasteful makeup and hairstyling.
A formal, elegant gown may call for a slightly more dramatic makeup and
hair "statement", but jewelry can go from nearly-there to a few 'solid'
pieces.
More
dramatic gowns of sequins, layers, glitz and bling, deserve special
attention. On one hand, these gowns
require more dramatic makeup and hairstyling, but on the other hand, you do not
want to have an "all-out-war" between the different elements all screaming
for attention! Let me explain: your gown
is all glitz, so you need your hair to match the glitz in volume, height,
length and accessories, this then creates the need for glitzier makeup, which
leads to the need for obvious bling jewelry and then somehow your gown seems to
have lost some of its shine. Let your
gown lead: your hairstyle must have volume and height and your makeup
should be more dramatic and glossy, but they should balance the overall
effect of the gown. Now depending on the
dress, jewelry can still be understated or in some cases, left out completely,
if the dress is heavily sequined or embroidered.
If you tend to suffer from contact
allergies from wearing jewelry is that not 100% solid gold or silver; you must
ensure, in advance, the metal content of your jewelry.
I warmly recommend you NOT wear very expensive rare pieces of jewelry or jewelry that is fragile and does not have working, secure clasps. If this jewelry is important to you, then wear these pieces for formal photos and then remove them and place them safely away during the wedding and dancing.
When looking at
each jewelry choice keep the following points in mind:
Pearls
Pearls come in many different colors and shades, but when talking about
white/off-white pearls, you should make sure that you wear the same shade
of white for all your jewelry choices. The issue of matching white or off-white
pearls to the same color wedding gown is a personal choice; most folks around you will not see
a difference or care. So go for what YOU want, as you should with all your
wedding choices!
Earrings
- Long,
hanging chandelier-type earrings are appropriate if you have a
long/longish neck. If you have a
wide and/or short neck, think about short hanging or button-type earrings.
- Always
consider the neckline of your gown when considering the length of an
earring – you do not want your earring continuously catching or even tearing the material
of your gown or scratching your neck or shoulder.
- If
your earrings are made for pierced ears, take an extra set of backs for
your earrings. This is applicable
whether your earrings are posts or hanging. In order to find this extra set in a
hurry – tape them to a piece of colored paper and place it in your
take-to-the-hall bag or makeup bag.
Necklaces
- Consider
the neckline of your gown when choosing the necklace: a chocker style is
usually appropriate for nearly any neckline, but a longer necklace may not
be visible with a higher neckline.
- As
with earrings, here too you need to consider the length of the necklace
and style in order to prevent it from catching and tearing the material of
the gown or continuously scratching your neck.
Bracelets
- As with earrings and necklaces, here too you need to consider the possibility of the bracelet catching and tearing the material of your gown or continuously scratching your wrists/arms.
- If the bracelet is set with precious, semi-precious or crystal stones, make sure the settings are completely closed and all edges are smooth and not jagged.
- Make
sure the clasps of the bracelets are secure and will hold up to dancing
and moving around.
Rings
- I
believe you should only wear your engagement ring and your wedding ring,
once you receive it. I don’t
believe this is the time or place to show off other rings.
Tiaras
- Like
every other piece of jewelry, tiaras must complement the wedding
gown and the overall look. You do
not have to choose your veil and tiara at the same time, but you should
have both in mind as you choose your look.
- Tiaras
come in different styles: a metal headband with combs at either end; a headband
with ribbon or wire at either end or a headband with holes on either end that is attached to the hair with bobby pins.
- The tiara – its height and how it should be worn - must be taken into consideration when choosing a hairstyle or conversely, if you have your heart set on a specific tiara, you must take it into consideration when choosing your hairstyle.
- There are no set rules regarding the maximum height of the tiara and the height of the hairstyle. Please keep in mind that your overall height, as seen in the wedding pictures, is a combination of the height of your heels plus the length of your dress and styling (a tailored, very form-fitting dress will make you seem taller; a to-the-floor gown will make you seem taller than a shorter cut-at-the calf or knee gown) plus the height of your hair and tiara. I do believe that you should take the height of the groom into consideration when thinking about your overall look.
As
veils are an important part of the wedding dress, they will be discussed in a
separate, upcoming article.
Minhag
There
is a minhag that under the chuppah, the Kallah removes all her jewelry,
except perhaps her engagement ring.
The thought behind this minhag is that the wedding ring is the most
significant piece of jewelry for the Kallah, especially on this night and in
order that no other jewelry outshine it, all other jewelry is removed. If the Kallah wants to keep this minhag, you
need to appoint someone to remove her jewelry before the badeken and keep her jewelry throughout the chuppah
and yichud and then return and place the jewelry back on the Kallah. You should have a draw-string bag or small
box to easily hold the jewelry and keep it safe.
A YEAR OF NEW BEGINNINGS!
A NEW YEAR WITH A NEW NAME THE KALLAH WHISPERER!
Wishing you, your family and all Am
Yisrael a Shana Tova! A year of HEALTH,
HAPPINESS
and TIME to realize all your dreams!
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