As both a makeup artist
and hair stylist for brides and their mothers and as a mother to both a bride
and a few grooms, I can tell you that the mother of the bride shares a special
place in the pantheon of the needy.
While grooms are pretty
much low maintenance; shower and shave 'em and put them in a suit and they are basically
ready to go. OK, I'll admit it - I've
slathered on a bit of mouse on many a groom's hair to make them feel
'pampered'. But let's be honest, as long
as they show up and say 'Ha'rey aht…", place a ring on the bride's finger and break a
glass, oh and smile pretty for some pictures – they have pretty much done their
duty. Mothers of the groom may be
nervous and a little anxious, but they do not endure the hours upon hours upon
hours of preparation the Mother of the Bride endures as she watches the
metamorphosis of her daughter into the BRIDE. 
Truthfully this painful
process of 'becoming a bride' really begins with three innocent words spoken by
the happy couple: "We're getting married". From that fateful moment
and until the happy couple stand under the chuppah, there is a mad dash to
complete something like one thousand, six hundred and twenty two tasks. Each task is a search for sheer perfection
– for the wedding, as a whole and for the bride, personally. The task search list includes: the perfect
hall, the perfect menu, the perfect center pieces,
the perfect chuppah, the perfect rabbi, the perfect
band, the perfect photographer; as well as the perfect
bridal gown, the prefect bouquet, the perfect veil,
the perfect tiara, the perfect jewelry, the perfect
shoes, the perfect makeup, the perfect hairstyle
and the list just goes on and on. As
time draws closer to the event, this never-ending list is tackled by an ever-more
anxious bride and her ever-more apprehensive mother.
But somehow in this mad
dash for perfection, the Mother of the Bride is forgotten. You may rightly say that this is the bride's
day, so tough luck; the mother had her day and now it's her
daughter's turn. Fair enough, but I
believe that the mother of the bride deserves a little special attention of her
own. It's an emotional day for the bride's
mother as she sees her daughter become a bride, especially if this is her first
wedding or first daughter marrying or only daughter marrying. Sometimes all three conditions are found in
one wedding event.
On the day of the
wedding, as the long hours of preparation move forward and the bride is made
up, hair-styled, dressed, attended to and fussed over – hopefully with her
friends surrounding her; the mother of the bride is often left behind to watch
with a cup of coffee in one hand and a set of car keys in the other hand.
What am I asking
for? I am asking that the mother of the
bride get a little pampering on this special day and that someone ELSE remember
to pamper her. Need some pampering
ideas? How about an early morning
massage at home or in the hotel, or full makeup, hair styling and nails for the
big event? And you know what else she
deserves? A present – yup - a present
for the Mother of the Bride.
Presented either by the bride or the Father of the Bride (I'm
sure he is there somewhere, although you really don't seem to notice him
until the badekin or the chuppah).
I
believe that jewelry is the perfect present! And
wouldn't it be lovely if it could be something the Mother of the Bride can
wear to the wedding and enjoy immediately? What kind of jewelry? Now that's the subject of
a whole other blog!
Remember to kiss the
Mother of the Bride – today!
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