The ultimate guide to bat mitzvah & bridesmaids hairstyling

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Hairstyling for bat mitzvah girls, young bridesmaids and flower girls is a wonderful way to create a special look for these little cuties. 

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The age-appropriateness of the hairstyle, the young lady’s level of maturity and temperament and length of hair - all together -determine whether you should invest the time and effort in styling the bat mitzvah/bridesmaid's hair.  

While even infants can wear a cute headband; once these cuties can walk on their own, you can begin to think about styling their hair, just keep these guidelines in mind:
Let the young lady pick the hairstyle or at least have a say in what she wants – within reason.

Go with the flow - don’t make the hairstyling process feel like a punishment.

Be open to the fact that young girls may not want any style on the big day or will remove the hairstyle just before the simcha, or while walking down the aisle or exactly at the moment the photographer is about to take a photo.

 The hairstyle must suit the face and body build of the young lady.

Plan a style that can be easily undone or pinned up if it falls or the young lady no longer wants to wear it.

Any length of hair can styled.  Even short hair can be styled with simple braids or hair coils, using colorful rubber bands or clips to hold the ends in place.

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Never create top-heavy or bottom-heavy hairstyles or styles that pull the hair back too severely.

Make sure they can jump, dance and move freely in their style.  I always do the jump up and down test to ensure no hairs can get caught in zippers or sleeves.

Braids, simple or complicated, are always in style for bridesmaids of all ages.

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A gentle sprinkle of glitter (make sure our cutie closes her eyes and then give the hair a light dusting of hairspray and then gently sprinkle on glitter, then blow off the excess) is a great way to add a bit of sparkle to a simple style without the fuss of pins, especially for young bridesmaids.

The most versatile hairstyle for nearly any length of hair is a half up and half down hairstyle and has the added value of keeping the young lady’s hair from falling all over her face.               

Flowers, pins and other hair accessories – can be an easy way to dress up a simple style or can be a pain if they fall out or stick someone.  Look for hair accessories that are easy to attach and stay put or consider gluing (with special glue) flat accessories to the hair! 

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Dressing the bride: A guide to white weddings dresses, veils, nose rings and everything in between

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And the bride wore white.  Whose bright idea was that?

Tell me - whose bright idea was it to dress a bride all in white and then send her into a room full of people milling about (at the kabalat panim) eating sushi with soy sauce, spaghetti dripping with tomato sauce and mini kababs swimming in oil?  Oh and did I forget to mention the infamous red wine she will sip under the chuppah?  

Seriously, only a man would have thought that white could be a good color for a bride.  Actually it could be - if she is wearing a white dress she can wash and wear. Unfortunately during the last one hundred years or so - wedding gowns have been made of lace, silk, chiffon, satin and a host of other materials that are allergic to water and attract stains like kids to candy.  So where does this custom of the bride wearing white come from?

Let’s start with girls of marriageable age wearing white during the time of the Beit Hamikdash.  In the Taanis 26B, Raban Shimon Ben Gamliel said: ‘There are no more joyous days for Israel than Tu B'Av (the 15th of Av) and Yom Kippur, on these days the (unmarried) girls in Jerusalem would borrow dresses of white, so no one would be embarrassed that they didn't have a dress, and go out to the vineyards and dance.'  The Gemara continues by urging the unmarried young men: ‘Young man, go out and see who you choose'. Meaning: choose a bride.

As a result of the Gemara quote, Tu B'Av (along with Lag B’Omer) are the busiest wedding days on the Jewish calendar.  

While no one marries on Yom Kippur, many of the “themes” of Yom Kippur are found in wedding ceremony.  Firstly, for the bride and groom, their wedding day is considered a Yom Kippur Katan, a mini Yom Kippur.  Just as Yom Kippur is a day of fasting and an opportunity to begin the new year with a fresh start; many brides and grooms fast on their wedding day, as this is their shared opportunity to begin their lives anew.  Secondly, many grooms wear a kitel under the Chuppah, another symbol of Yom Kippur.

In past centuries and around the world, white was not considered a suitable bridal color.  So when did white become the bridal color of choice?  It seems that we can blame Queen Victoria of England for that fashion challenge; the queen chose to marry Prince Albert decked out all in white, back in 1840.  Since then, white has become the color associated with purity and innocence.  So white it is!

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Forget the Gown - take a look at the Bridal Accessory List!  

Today the bridal dress is the undisputed focal point of the bride's attire, however during biblical times the bridal accessories took precedence. And the bridal accessory list was astounding!

Take a look at this list, from Yishi'yahu Perek 3:18 - 24.  While the passage is actually meant as a reproof to the Jews living in ancient Israel; the list of bridal accessories talks volumes as to what brides wore on their special day.  The list includes: anklets, tiaras, necklaces, earrings, bracelets, scarves, bonnets, armbands, belts, perfume boxes, amulets, rings, nose ornaments, cloaks, mantles, gowns, handbags, gauze, fine linen, hoods and veils.

 Yishi’yahu Perek 3 יְשַׁעְיָהוּ
יח  בַּיּוֹם הַהוּא יָסִיר אֲדֹנָי, אֵת תִּפְאֶרֶת הָעֲכָסִים וְהַשְּׁבִיסִים--וְהַשַּׂהֲרֹנִים.
18 In that day the Lord will take away the bravery of their anklets, and the fillets, and the crescents;
יט  הַנְּטִפוֹת וְהַשֵּׁירוֹת, וְהָרְעָלוֹת.
19 the pendants, and the bracelets, and the veils;
כ  הַפְּאֵרִים וְהַצְּעָדוֹת וְהַקִּשֻּׁרִים, וּבָתֵּי הַנֶּפֶשׁ וְהַלְּחָשִׁים.
20 the headtires, and the armlets, and the sashes, and the corselets, and the amulets;
כא  הַטַּבָּעוֹת, וְנִזְמֵי הָאָף.
21 the rings, and the nose-jewels;
כב  הַמַּחֲלָצוֹת, וְהַמַּעֲטָפוֹת, וְהַמִּטְפָּחוֹת, וְהָחֲרִיטִים.
22 the aprons, and the mantelets, and the cloaks, and the girdles;
כג  וְהַגִּלְיֹנִים, וְהַסְּדִינִים, וְהַצְּנִיפוֹת, וְהָרְדִידִים.
23 and the gauze robes, and the fine linen, and the turbans, and the mantles.

With today's much abbreviated accessory list, it is interesting to note that it is easy to follow the custom of the bride removing all her jewelry before she walks to the chuppah.  The reason for her removing all her jewelry is to signify that the wedding ring, she will be given under the chuppah, is her most significant piece of jewelry.  (The bride usually replaces all her jewelry after the chuppah is over.)   

Once again the themes of Yom Kippur can be found here, as I have heard that the custom of the bride removing her jewelry (and perhaps also wearing white), mimics the way the Cohen Gadol used to wear only special white unadorned clothes when he did the most holy work of the year in the Beit Hamikdash on Yom Kippur.

Let’s not forget the Veil!
Veils have been part of the Jewish wedding experience, since Yitzchak married Rivka, the first bride mentioned in the Torah.  We don't know what she wore, but we do know that she wore a veil and she lowered it as she approached Yitzchak. 

Another Torah veil story comes from the "hard lesson" Yaakov learned when he thought he had married Rachel, but ended up with her sister Leah.  To avoid any future marriage mixups, the custom of the groom himself placing the veil on the bride (the Badeken ceremony) was born.  This custom is still practiced today.

There are so many customs and traditions surrounding the dressing of the bride and groom and the wedding ceremony itself that you can incorporate in your wedding ceremony.  Do you want more information on Jewish wedding customs and traditions?  Contact me today!


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5 Secrets To Smelling GREAT All Day!

Do you know the 5 secrets to make your fragrance last LONGER once you spritz?

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Whether you choose to wear perfume, Eau de parfum, Eau de toilette,
Eau de Cologne or oils the rules are the same:

Spritz or Spray or dab on moist skin after a shower or bath.

Spritz or Spray or dab on moist pulse points (wrists, behind the knees, ears and crook of the arm).   

To get that “just showered” moist skin any time of day – apply moisturizer on skin before spraying.

Spritz or Spray or dab on your skin and not on your clothes( you may ruin them!).

Use roll-on oils – but be super careful not to leave oil stains on clothing.

The fragrance you choose is a personal choice.  Over the years I have gone through countless “fragrance kicks”.  I loved mixing fragrances; first mixing different made-for-women fragrances and then mixing made-for-women with made-for-men fragrances (I loved Aramis!).  Today, I've stopped mixing, but I am not loyal to any single fragrance for more than a season or two. 

How long a fragrance will stay on your skin depends firstly on the kind of fragrance concentration (perfume, etc.) you buy and on your skin type.  So let’s understand the differences between perfume, Eau de parfum, Eau de Cologne and Eau de toilette.

Perfume contains the most concentrated amount of the scent and lasts the longest and is the most expensive.  Use sparingly!

The following “eaus” (“eau” means water in French) in order of essence concentration and lasting power.

Eau de parfum is less intense than perfume (with about 15% – 20% essence concentration), but can last quite long on the skin. Use sparingly!

Eau de toilette is next on the scent food chain with about 10% essence; a good summer scent.  Enjoy a good spritz!

Eau de Cologne has about 7% essence and is also a good, but light summer fragrance and can be reapplied often for a “refreshing feeling”. Spritz away!

Oily skin tends to help any fragrance linger longer on your skin; so if you have dry or combination skin apply a moisturizer or a matching fragrance body lotion/cream before spritzing to help keep your fragrance last longer.

Every girl needs fragrance-recharges throughout the day! The best times in my opinion are: after lunch, as a mid-afternoon pick-me-up and just before leaving work.  Keep a small bottle of roll-on oil in your makeup bag or a small bottle of your favorite fragrance in your desk for a fragrance re-charge any time you need it!

It’s time for a summer fragrance make over!  Take an hour or so and go to your favorite Pharma chain store or local cosmetic store and try on all the NEW fragrances to your heart’s content.  Don’t leave the store without buying at least one new fragrance and spritz away!


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